Apparently, All It Takes To Fall In Love Are These 36 Questions

It's a love experiment.

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by MANDY VELEZ

Last week, The New York Times published a piece to their
 Modern Love column called "To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This."
In it, writer Mandy Len Catron details how she used research on love
to make herself fall in love — and it worked.

About two decades ago, Social psychologist Arthur Aron came up
with 36 questions so deep that he believed they would lead people to
 falling in love. 

Catron writes the basic rules and regulations of the study:

A heterosexual man and woman enter the lab through separate doors

They sit face to face and answer a

series of increasingly personal questions.

Then they stare silently into each other’s eyes for four minutes.

The most tantalizing detail:

Six months later, two participants were married.

They invited the entire lab to the ceremony.

She decided to try out the experiment herself with a male university
acquaintance. They went to a bar and asked
each other the questions
one by one until they ventured outside to look into each other's eyes
for four minutes, like the research says.

According to her, it worked.

"You’re probably wondering if he and I fell in love. Well, we did,"
she wrote. "Although it’s hard to credit the study entirely
(it may have happened anyway), the study did give us a way into a
relationship that feels deliberate. We spent weeks in the intimate space
 we created that night, waiting to see what it could become."

Catron goes on to say that love is a choice, not so much something
that happens to us like we're all led to believe. Art Markman, Ph.D,
a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, told
Yahoo how this could be possible.

“With this research, it’s almost like hypnosis in a way,” says Markman. “
If you think about falling in love, it’s really a willingness to lower barriers
 that normally inhibit us from getting to know each other.”

Whether or not the experiment itself led to the author and her partner
falling in love or just led her in the right direction, her outlook on
connecting to another person is something we can take away no
matter how we fall in love:

I’ve begun to think love is a more pliable thing than we make it out to be.

         Arthur Aron’s study taught me that it’s possible — simple, even —
          to generate trust and intimacy, the feelings love needs to thrive.

Now go grab someone and get the ball rolling:

1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a
dinner guest?

2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?

3. Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you’re going
to say? Why?

4. What would constitute a perfect day for you?

5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?

6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either
the mind or body of a 30-year old for the last 60 years of your life,
which would you choose?

7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?

8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.

9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?

10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised,
what would it be?

11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much
detail as possible.

12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained one quality or ability,
what would it be?

13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life,
 the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

14. Is there something that you’ve dreamt of doing for a long time?
Why haven’t you done it?

15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?

16. What do you value most in a friendship?

17. What is your most treasured memory?

18. What is your most terrible memory?

19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly,
would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

20. What does friendship mean to you?

21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?

22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive
characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your
 childhood was happier than most other people’s?

24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?

25. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance,
“we are both in this room feeling…”

26. Complete this sentence “I wish I had someone with
 whom I could share…”

27. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner
, please share what would be important for him or her to know.

28. Tell your partner what you like about them:
 Be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to
someone you’ve just met.

29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.

30. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?

31. Tell your partner something that you like about them already.

32. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

33. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to
 communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told
someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

34. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire.
After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely
 make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?

35. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you
 find most disturbing? Why?

36. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice
on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to
reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the
problem you have chosen.

Believe it or Not, These People Actually Exist (29 photos)

Some of these freakishly weird people made me feel sick.

Daughter Accidentally Finds Her Mother Having An Affair. What Her Father Did Is Totally Epic! LOL

What if your daughter accidentally finds her mother having an affair? What do you think she will do? And what will you do if you’re the husband?

Amazingly, in this story the father calmly assess the situation when he found out about the affair from her daughter. Oh by the way, be sure it’s your house you’re calling! Lol! This is Epic and Priceless!

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Lesson learned… BE FAITHFUL To your SPOUSE!!!

24 Strangest Animals Found In Water! Believe It Or Not They Are Real!

24 Strangest Animals Found In Water

#1. Axolotl

The Axolotl (or ajolote) (Ambystoma mexicanum) is the best-known of the Mexican neotenic mole salamanders belonging to the Tiger Salamander complex The species originates from the lake underlying Mexico City. Axolotls are used extensively in scientific research due to their ability to regenerate most body parts, ease of breeding, and large embryos.

#2. The Blob Fish

The blobfish (Psychrolutes marcidus) is a fish that inhabits the deep waters off the coasts of Australia and Tasmania. Due to the inaccessibility of its habitat, it is rarely seen by humans.

Blobfish are found at depths where the pressure is several dozens of times higher than at sea level, which would likely make gas bladders inefficient. To remain buoyant, the flesh of the blobfish is primarily a gelatinous mass with a density slightly less than water; this allows the fish to float above the sea floor without expending energy on swimming.

#3. Cantor’s Giant Soft Shelled Turtle

Called the Frog Head Turtle in Khmer language, the Asian Giant Softshell Turtle is easily recognized by its broad head, with eyes close to tip of snout. Its habitats are the river swamps, estuaries, and mudflats in lowland areas. Cambodia is believed to have a number of significant populations of this species

#4. Clown Frogfish

The Clown Frogfish or Antennarius maculatus is just one of the over 45 different species of Frogfish that inhabit our oceans. The coloration of the Clown Frogfish can vary by quite a bit. Some are brown or red, others yellow or purple and even a few white ones. You see, this fish actually has the ability to change its colors to blend in with whatever the colors of its habitat might be. They are not particularly large fish grow to only about 6″ in maximum length. Like other Frogfish this fish can actually walk along the bottom using its fins as legs!
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#5. Dumbo Octopos

Living at a depth of 7,000 meter below sea level, the Dumbo octopus is the deepest-living octopi discovered. The octopuses of the genus Grimpoteuthis are sometimes nicknamed “Dumbo octopuses” from the ear-like fins protruding from the top of their “heads” (actually bodies), resembling the ears of Walt Disney’s flying elephant.

They are benthic creatures, living at extreme depths, and are some of the rarest of the Octopoda species.
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#6. Giant Squid

Giant squid live up to their name: the largest giant squid ever recorded by scientists was almost 43 feet (13 meters) long, and may have weighed nearly a ton. You’d think such a huge animal would be hard to miss. But because the ocean is vast and giant squid live deep underwater, they remain elusive and are rarely seen: most of what we know comes from dead carcasses that floated to the surface and were found by fishermen.

#7. Glaucus Atlanticus aka Blue Dragon

This creature is a is a species of blue sea slug. You could find it in warm waters of the oceans, as it floats on the surface because of a gas-filled sac in its stomach.

At maturity Glaucus atlanticus can be up to 3 cm in length

It is silvery grey on its dorsal side and dark and pale blue ventrally. It has dark blue stripes on its head. It has a tapering body which is flattened, and has six appendages which branch out into rayed, finger-like cerata.

#8. Goblin Shark

This rare shark is sometimes even called a “living fossil”, “is the only extant representative of the family Mitsukurinidae, a lineage some 125 million years old.” Goblin sharks inhabit around the world at depths greater than 100 m (330 ft), with adults found deeper than juveniles. Given the depths at which it lives, the goblin shark poses no danger to humans

#9. Irrawaddy Dolphin

The Irrawaddy dolphin is similar to the beluga in appearance, though most closely related to the killer whale. It has a large melon and a blunt, rounded head, and the beak is indistinct.

They are commonly found in discontinuous subpopulations near sea coasts and in estuaries and rivers in parts of the Bay of Bengal and Southeast Asia.

#10. Japanese Spider Crab

The Japanese spider crab, Macrocheira kaempferi, is a species of marine crab that lives in the waters around Japan. It has the largest leg span of any arthropod, reaching up to 3.8 metres and weighing up to 19 kilograms

#11. Lamprey

Lamprey are jawless fishes, representatives of an extremely ancient group of animals. In fact, there has been some sort of lamprey around for about 450 million years. The Lamprey’s face is dominated by a large sucking disk on the underside, heavily armed with rows of pointed teeth.

#12. Mint Shrimp

Also called the “sea locusts“, “prawn killers” and even “thumb splitters”, this is one of the most common predators in tropical and sub-tropical waters; little is known about them, however, because of how much time they spend hiding in their burrows.

#13. Narwhal

This toothed whale, found in the arctic, has been valued for over 1000 years by the Inuit people for its meat and ivory. The narwhal, however, is especially sensitive to the climate change

#14. Penis Snake

This peculiar eyeless animal is actually called Atretochoana eiselti. It is a large, presumably aquatic, caecilian amphibian with a broad, flat head and a fleshy dorsal fin on the body.

Atretochoana eiselti is the largest known caecilian, attaining a length of 81 cm (32 inches), or more than twice the size of the next-largest known species.

#15. Red Lipped Batfish

The red-lipped batfish gives the impression that it tried to compensate for an unusual body by caking on the lipstick.

Interestingly, they are better suited for ‘walking’ along the ocean floor than swimming. When they reach adulthood, they use their dorsal fin as a fishing lure to attract prey instead of for swimming.

#16. Sea Pig

Scotoplanes live on deep ocean bottoms, specifically on the abyssal plain in the Atlantic, Pacific and Indian Ocean, typically at depths of over 1000 meters. They are deposit feeders, and obtain food by extracting organic particles from deep-sea mud

Scotoplanes, like many sea cucumbers, often occur in huge densities, sometimes numbering in the hundreds when observed.

#17. Snakehead Fish

This scary looking fish is called a Snakehead. They are known for its voracious appetite, often consuming all other fish in a lake or pond and even eating its young. It can also slither across land and stay out of water for up to three days to find new sources of food. Once on land, snakeheads can eat almost any small animal in its path, and have even attacked people who got too close to snakehead egg nesting areas.

#18. The Atelopus Frog aka Harlequin Frog

Unfortunately, this amazing looking creature — which looks like a Grateful Dead Poster come to life — is also one of the world’s rarest and highly endangered amphibians.

#19. The Blue Parrot Fish

This bright blue fish can be found in the waters of the Atlantic Ocean, and spends 80% of its time searching for food.

This weird but amazing looking fish is considered a delicacy in many parts of the world. In Polynesia, it is served raw and was once considered “royal food”, only eaten by a King.
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#20. The Giant Isopod

This one is the largest of the existing isopods. “The enormous size of the giant isopod is a result of a phenomenon known as deep sea gigantism. This is the tendency of deep sea crustaceans and other animals to grow to a much larger size than similar species in shallower waters.”

This bizarre animal is related to the common Pill Bug and, according to fossil record, have existed for over 160 million years. Even though it looks like these creatures could easily take over the world if they wanted to, they are actually quite harmless, deep-sea scavengers.

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#21. The Oarfish

The Oar-fish also known as ribbon fish, are among the largest fish in the ocean, with some that can grow to up to 50 feet long. Because of its size, many believe sea serpent folklore and stories of mythological sea creatures originate with the oar-fish. If you’re worried that this image – which is now burned into your brain for eternity – will prevent you to ever set foot in the ocean again, don’t be. They commonly reside 3,000 feet deep, and sightings of this sea monster are extremely rare.

#22. The Pacu Fish

Pacu is related to the meat-eating piranha, both sharing the same subfamily Serrasalminae, but they have different diets. Piranha is carnivorous proof of it are the sharp pointy teeth, while pacu is omnivorous with a squarer and straighter teeth like the humans.

Read our full article about the Pacu Fish

#23. The Smooth Long Necked Turtle

This species of turtle have such long necks but they aren’t able to pull it back into their shell, which is basically the only good thing about being a turtle.

They do have skunk superpowers though and can produce a offensive smelling liquid if threatened.
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#24. Yeti Crab

Lastly is the Kiwa hirsuta also knwon as the Yeti Crab, a crustacean discovered in 2005 in the South Pacific Ocean. This decapod, which is approximately 15 cm long, is notable for the quantity of silky blond setae covering its pereiopods.
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